When I think about serenity, I vision a flower growing. Nothing prevents her from growing and flourishing more secure over time. She grows roots so deep it’s hard to tear her apart, but when something does there’s still a part hidden in the ground, prepared to bloom again. The flower isn’t made to remain the same.
Daring poems are worth keeping in mind and being reminded of even on hard days. They are purposefully written to show a deeper meaning behind things and you have to think twice about them before truly understanding the meaning. They make you question things you never questioned before and you can relate to them on a different level. I want to write them.
We know that our actions speak for us, the way we behave and treat other people. While what we do is clearly visible, our intentions are hidden.
We may aren’t even sure about them ourselves. However, they can help shaping our lives, because everything begins with an intention. Every journey you go trough, purpose you follow and change you experience. And perhaps you don’t realise it at first, yet small choices like how you portray yourself on social media can reflect your intentions. At some point you might find yourself questioning:
Ask yourself if you feel proud about what you’re doing.
It doesn’t matter how serious the situation or decision is, when it comes to your mental health it’s important enough to care about.
Think about how you set your intentions and what impact they have on your life.
I’m tired of society always putting people into categories, just because they share superficial characteristics. They don’t even try to look beyond the borders of what they can see. It basically favours judgement, which can cause Prejudice, Discrimination and Stereotyping. So while we try to increase our self-esteem, we‘re constantly being put down by the idea of getting defined by one of those categories. We start questioning our own uniqueness and that shouldn’t happen.
Sometimes you might perceive an overwhelming amount of thoughts building up in your head. Your mind is absolute chaos, it seems confusing. That’s when you need some time to reflect, which goes a long way. Because it often comes with having to choose a new space, unapologetically choosing yourself first and going at your own pace.
We need new surroundings to discover ourselves, like searching in the ocean for something you can’t find on land.
It can mean, being distant to certain people in your life and having to deal with their reactions to that. And this fear of what could happen, whether it’s loosing those people or feeling even more lost in life, is holding you back. So you may crave change, but you’re too afraid of it. On days, where you feel like the fear is controlling your mind, you should try to focus on what the experience of taking care for yourself can teach you. Think about what you have to gain and see the strength and bravery in taking this choice.
Remember that growth isn’t meant to be comfortable.
Did you ever thought about the deeper meaning behind admiring someone? Why you’re inspired to become a better person, just because of someone? I’m not only talking about a common role model, it can be anybody in your life.
The point is, the people we look up to, are people that we think deserve to be admired. We know to get in the same position as them, we would have to work as hard on ourselves. When we don’t know how people achieved something, we don’t know which way they had to go, we often underestimate them. Sometimes we’re just seeing what we want to. And I can’t tell you where this mindset comes from, but I realise we can work on how to change it. We’re able to better ourselves, through avoiding to jump to conclusions about people. Because being familiar with one small fraction of a persons life, is not a reason to do so.
Over-thinking;
the art of creating problems that weren’t even there.
Do you know that feeling of thinking about something and not being able to stop?
Let me explain to you how it feels like:
Instantly you know it’s probably not healthy for you mentally, but that doesn’t seem really important at the moment. You think about something all over and over again, in a different way each time. Often you’re confused and don’t recognise the right thing to do. Then you may start asking yourself: Why am I thinking about this?, am I even allowed to have that opinion? If not, what am I supposed to to think instead?, or what is going through other people’s minds right now? You don’t know where to begin and everything seems like too much. That’s when pressure builds up.
In those situations you should try to:
That way things get more clear or you might be able to escape all these thoughts. But at least, it should avoid letting the situation become worse.
Self Reflection 